Career Or Love: What Should A Person Choose?
So many people give up their dreams, career, cities, and everything else for their loved ones. Many of them have faith in the person whom they love, but many also tend to face the harsh side of it. They are betrayed by the person they love. So what to do? Which thing should we choose? Love or career? How do we go about with it? This big question ponders everyone’s mind but here’s what users from Quora have to say about it:
1. You can love many times but career opportunities are rare.
“Always choose the career. Because everyone just wants to be with someone. Everyone wants their love-story to be special just so that they can tell people or have weird satisfaction. The basic thing is you can love many times but career opportunities are rare.”
2. When it comes to choosing between the two, it’s never an easy answer.
“You have the diehard romantics who’d tell you to choose love. And on the other hand, you’d have the ladder climbers looking down and yelling to give up your personal life and reach out to your ambition. But seriously, if it ever comes down to choosing between love and career, there’s never an easy way out.
Unless one side wins by a mile or you have no regrets, whatever the decision, you’ll always be bitter unless you’re wholeheartedly convinced with your decision.”
3. Can you choose between food and oxygen?
“We have different boxes all these boxes are our needs like love/respect/care to make us feel wonderful. It could be from your sweetheart, your parents, your children, your siblings, your social circle, you professional circle. Both are needed. Maturity is to balance between your career and family.”
4. Some women choose to follow men, and some women choose to follow their dreams.
“If you’re wondering which way to go, remember that your career will never wake up and tell you that it doesn’t love you anymore.” Lady Gaga once said these lines and one of the Quora users feels that career is more important than getting a person you love.
5. Careers will give intellectual satisfaction and independence that love can never give.
“The actual feeling of love fades after a few years, and then many people discover they are not compatible. At this point, it is too late because they already have kids and have stood before all their friends and family pledging eternal matrimony.
There is a reason that most time if a couple in not married after three years, they don’t end up getting married. This is because around this time the novelty of the relationship has begun to wear off. They see the flaws of a person and realize that if the person is not first happy within oneself, another partner cannot make the individual magically content.”
6. Life is not black, nor white. It’s not absolute. It’s not certain.
“Life is several million grades of gray, it’s volatile, it’s changing, it’s meaningful and it’s meaningless. And whatever perception we have of it is mostly biased. The best description there is of it is probably seen in the uncertainty and objectiveness of nature.
Some choose to love and end up having average careers, but with lovely families. Some choose a career and ended up being very successful, but without a loving family. But you know what, some choose to love and end up with a great career.”
7. Love, because when you love truly, career automatically falls into place.
“The vice versa is seldom true. Career pursuit would hardly get you true love, or let you devote time to it. Looking at it another way, a family is more important than a career because you pursue your career to sustain your loving family and never vice versa. A level deeper, true love connects you with yourself and your talent/passion. It sets you free from office politics and conspiracies etc. Without love, true career is not possible. What happens instead is a directionless pursuit of going to the office every day, coming back to home and sleeping off, only to restart the next day.”
8. Career will determine what kind of a future you will get , and love will definitely add to the beauty in that future.
“During career-making, you should always remain focused to your goal and waste no time. No compromise for that.
If your partner is understanding and motivating, be with him/her. Giving him/her minimum time won’t affect you. Rather it will keep you happy. After the career, fight for the love. Spend life with him/ her; because, you may get a lot of partners, but with the lover who has been by your side, you will always be happier – he /she has loved the real ‘you’, not your money/job. If your partner has supported you in your bad times, then he/she deserves to be with you in your good times.”
9. Career, without any second thought!
“It provides you financial stability and lets you focus on the development of your own self which will ultimately lead you to your progress and success. Career won’t lead you to poverty.”
10. Love is a just a feeling and career is not.
“To give a clear explanation let’s compare love to a phone and career is the signal on your phone. Without signal(successful career) the ultimate aim of mobile (love) is lost. You will always have love from your loved ones, but you don’t have a career unless you DO. Love is a just a feeling and career is not. It’s a way of life.
Simply speaking most of the stories don’t reach the success, not because of lack of love. But because of the lack of career. Love is a temporary solution to a problem but career gives the permanent solution.”
11. Always follow your heart.
“Many people have to give up their dreams after marriage especially women. I want you to follow your heart. If you want to be a housewife and giving warm welcomes to your loved ones, then go ahead. If you still want to keep your career because you’ve worked so hard to get there, then keep it. Sometimes, you have the privilege of having both so don’t blow it. Learn to balance work and family. It’s hard I know but share the load with your partner, that way it won’t feel like a burden.”
12. At the right time of life, probably adulthood one should try to have both and value them equally.
“If any of the two jeopardizes with the other, then there is a need for introspection. A good career will enhance your confidence a healthy relationship will pull you up in your career.
And if at all you come in a situation to choose between the either of the two, be selfish and choose what shall be right for YOU and the people you care about, your family more importantly, because at the end of the day you have to live with yourself, your family and your choices.”
13. Follow your portfolio of goals and career and love will follow.
“Choose? I mean what? Your girlfriend is telling you to either go to the office or go for a coffee with me every day? Lol.
If your lover or whatever is actually true, he/she will be motivating you to pursue a career.
Go for a career for the sake of those two individuals who raised you, to see you successful and earning and happy and not to be in love of some MADAM MAAYA. Follow your portfolio of goals and career and love will follow.
Relationships comes next to your goals except for your mom and dad.”
14. Career clubbed with love.
“You can’t build a successful career being deprived of love and same goes with love, love without being practical towards a career is of no use.
It has to go hand in hand. At times, people succeed even without love in their life, but that void takes an ugly toll on them sooner or later. Love is the emotional support which keeps you pepped up. Anybody who pushes you, boosts you up, supports you in trying times has an important role in shaping up your course of action. Reason being, if you are emotionally fulfilled and enriched that positive outcome would reflect in your professional space in one way or the other. On the flipside, dwelling on love and putting career plans to rest thinking ‘Love conquers all’ or ‘Love would find its way’ is not doable either. We need to strike a balance between the two.”
15. Choosing your career over the person you love would gradually result in regrets or guilt.
“So both of them should be managed wisely. For example, my husband. He has chosen a company that gives him a very good work-life balance. Though sometimes he feels that he doesn’t learn much from his present company since the growth is slow but still in this job, he can come home whenever he wants, doesn’t have to adhere to stress or pressure. So basically, he can give ample amount of time to the family.”
Note: All answers in this article have been picked from a Quora thread.
16. True love is hard to find.
“Love is special, and that’s what makes it so rare. It is more important. While falling in love may be easy, staying in love needs two soul mates that understand each other and are selfless in love. Do you have that relationship that makes you feel lucky at the end of the day?”
17. A better career can give you a better life.
“There’s no beating around the bush here, a good career can make for a better life. You can have your perfect partner but if you’re suffering in a bad career, will you ever be happy in your ‘miserable’ life?”
18. True love can withstand all odds.
“Now this is true. If both of you truly love each other, you don’t have to worry about separating for a few years or having to spend less time with each other. Instead of worrying about love or career, think of ways to make it work better.”
19. When you choose love.
“If you decide to stick with love and give up on getting a better career prospect, here are a few things you always need to ask yourself.
Would you ever forgive yourself for letting go of a career opportunity? Most lovers who choose love over career end up remorseful and regret their decision the very next time they have a fight or argument with their lover.
Would you feel bitter? Bitterness is a slow killer of relationships. If you ever do regret giving up on your career, your bitterness would turn to hatred towards your partner. And over time, you’d end up feeling grumpy or annoyed all the time, especially when you can’t afford what you want to splurge on. And at times, the bitterness could also take a toll on your happiness and you may end up blaming your lover for your shortcomings.”
20. If you choose work.
“Can you find a partner as loving as caring? Is your career move a once in a lifetime opportunity? You may end your relationship and move on, but you have to remember this, finding the love of your life is a miracle that few people ever experience. Have you found the one?
Can you move on and forget all about it? Sometimes, you may have second thoughts about moving away from your lover or having to end the relationship even if it’s a perfect one. Can you really put it all behind and avoid regretting it? There’s really no point in ending a relationship for a career and then spending several months regretting your decision and ruining your career at the same time.”
21. Love completes us.
“Today, you may assume you don’t need anyone to share your life with. You may love yourself too much to care about anyone else. But as the years pass by, you’ll soon see that self-love, career promotions and money will have no value, when you have no one to share it with. Love completes you when you share it with someone selflessly, and gives more meaning to your life.”
22. Love wisely and don’t make it a mistake.
“Just imagine you are suffering from a big disease. You need to be operated soon and before that, you have to deposit a huge amount of fees. At that moment of your life will ‘love’ be the solution to deposit your fees. NO. All you need is ‘money’ and from where that money will come from if you are unemployed. Then lying on the hospital bed you will realise, I wish I would have given priority to my career.
I am not saying don’t love. You should love. But love wisely so that it doesn’t affect your future.”
23. Life needs career and money!
“In my 1st year of graduation, I was in love. Those perfect and forever kind of love. I was in one of the best colleges in the country but she was in another city. Gradually distance was becoming a serious issue. So I decided to change my college. I thought if I could save my relationship by taking a degree from little college, what’s the worst that could happen? Less salary? At least I will be happy because we had everything planned out for our future. I talked to my parents, told my decision. Everything was ready and she broke up with me. Now don’t awww me. At that moment I thought I lost everything. Gave up on studies, started taking participation in cultural activities, traveling etc.
A few years later, graduated. Got the best job despite low grades due to college name. Met a great girl. Fell in love again. And life is beautiful. Just imagine if I had given up on my career at that time, I would have been probably unemployed and then the girl would have dumped me.
So, moral of the story – yes! Love exists and it’s beautiful. But life needs career and passion.”
24. Know which thing deserves more focus.
“Career and love are not mutually exclusive events in human life. Both of them are not like a coin toss where if someone is successful in career, they will never be successful in their love. From the way the question has been asked, it could be understood that either you are in a dilemma as to whether to focus on someone that you really like, instead of on spending time on your career or it could even be a general question.
If it is actually a personal dilemma, then in the absence of the facts about your situation, I would suggest you to better talk to your brothers or elders or friends that you could rely on.”
25. Love is the most realistic and genuine heartwarming feeling.
Love is by default more important than career. Now let me describe to you when you will know that you are in love. So if you are in love you consider yourself to be the luckiest person on the earth. You will embrace all positive things in this beautiful world. Love is the most realistic and genuine heartwarming feeling. You will start spreading love in a polite way to every person you encounter in your daily life. You will start loving your life.