10 Things That You Should Never Expect Your Man To Do
We all expect one thing or another from our partner which is pretty normal in a relationship. But we often measure men in a sort of unjust, unreasonable way. There are many things that are expected from him, one of which is to be the ‘man’ in the relationship.
I know, I know, we all hail from a long line of patriarchal values and men are supposed to be this macho, do-it-all alphas, but in the times of feminism and equality, these are all the things that you should actually stop expecting your man to do for you.
#1 Protect/fight for you.
You should not expect your man to fight for you. Pick your own battles and fight them off. Yes, of course, he will step in because he loves you and cares for you. But having him as your saviour should not be your first instinct.
#2 Constantly text you and reach out to you.
I know that you love to feel loved and constant texts are one way to feel it. But, it is no way possible for people to hit you up all the time. Your insecurities should not make your expectations go up like that.
#3 Agree with anything and everything you say.
If your boyfriend ever does it, please be weirded out, because it is impossible for two people to have the same views. No one can agree with you all the time.
Rather, cherish in your difference of opinion.
#4 Pay for everything.
No shit, some women date men for the sole pupose of getting free dinners. As infuriating as it sounds, please refrain yourself from becomming one of those women.
#5 Lose his identity for you.
If a man is able to give up his social identity for you, then please know that is the sign of a weak man. A man should not give up anything for you, rather encourage you to get comfortable with who and what he really is.
#6 Be faithful to you before having the ‘talk’.
It is possible that you are in the early stages of dating/knowing each other and he is intrested in other girls. As long as he has said that he is exclusive to you, don’t expect his absolute loyalty.
Have the talk before you can claim him out loud.
#7 Erase all the past relationships.
Why would they? Again, you should stop projecting your insecurities on your partner. Everyone has a past, and you need to learn to be okay with it.
#8 Be a man baby, looking to be rehabilitated by you.
Women are not rehabilitation centres for badly raised boys. You deserve a full grown man who has the emotional range that’s bigger than that of a spoon. Okay? Okay!
#9 Be ready to have sex all the time.
It might come as a shocker for you, but you should not expect men to be ready for sex at all times. Women think that men denying them sex is a sign of them not being interested in you.
Men can love and still not feel like having sex. Respect their sexual autonomy rather than using it against them.
#10 Change himself for you.
I read this very cool analogy once. It said, if you meet pant-suit guy, you are getting a pant-suit guy. Don’t expect him to change for you.
The best way to reduce your expectations from someone is to switch seats with them. Don’t expect your man to do something for you that you don’t wanna do in return, okay?